April 24, 2007

  • From "Dear Abby" today:

    "I am a single mother who supports her children. I can't afford to be killed or maimed on the road."

    Hmmm...so those of us who don't have children, or who are married and have children can afford to be killed or maimed on the road?

    Fucking entitlement-whore breeders.  Now, some of you may think this is an unwarranted, rude statement, but I submit that the statement of this single mother is just another in the long line of the breeders' superiority complex.  Now, if you have kids and you're not one of those, ok, I'll be pleased to exempt you from the sweeping generalities I am about to make.  But, if you aren't one of those, then you also surely know 1) there are a whole bunch of breeders out there who believe they are superior because they managed to pop out a kid, and 2) I am not ranting about you.

    Now, onward - where the fuck does this woman get off thinking she has some sort of special rights because she's a single mother?  Everyone takes their chances every day when driving - fate has no special exemptions for someone just because she is a breeder.

    I hold these people in contempt because they seem to think the world owes them some sort of special consideration just because they've had kids.  I don't have kids, yet to hear these breeders, they believe I should have to put up with their little rug monkeys running through the restaurant disrupting everyone's meal; I should be the one to stay late at work because I don't have snot-nosed petri dishes to run home to; I should feel bad that they didn't get enough sleep last night because of crying/coughing/whatever and therefore cannot (will not) come in to work today, etc.

    This makes me fucking crazy.  I have friends who have kids and they are good parents, raising normal, well-behaved children.  But most of the time, when a friend has a kid, I end up terminating the friendship since that person immediately becomes uber-mama, and everything is all about her and her "widdle bayyybe."  Or worse yet, they've contracted baby rabies and start asking me when I am going to pop out a rugrat.  Ummm...never...and all my friends know that.  I'm not shy about my stance on kids, so why must one of my supposed friends, once she's knocked up, start badgering me about breeding?  I don't even let my DOGS breed for fuck's sake...there are too many people and too many dogs on the planet already.

    Yes, I am childfree.  I am damn happy to be that way.  I have no desire for some little money-sponge, petri dish that I will have to take care of for the rest of my life.

    Yes, I am selfish.  Whatever.  At least I know it, and haven't popped out a kid because society decided I needed to, thereby ruining my life and the brat's life too. 

    Now, some breeders have a fallacious argument to my point of view - that being "what if your parents had felt that way?"  Well, then I wouldn't be here ranting about it, would I?  And frankly, I am not so sure the world would be worse off without me.  I mean, sure I am a decent person, I love my friends, I help people at my job.  BUT if I weren't here, no one would be any the wiser anyway.  And, you know, my parents might just be happier.  At least I know my mom would be - she doesn't have much of a maternal instinct, and both my parents have often said that it was my father who wanted the kids.

    You know, I don't think there's anything wrong with being selfish.  At least my selfishness only affects me (and my husband, of course.)  Far worse to be selfish and have that attitude affect so many others, such as believing the screeching of your rugrat is music to the ears of all the other store patrons.

    Take the little fucker outside already!

    (And if I had a restaurant?  Well, rather than smoking/non-smoking, it would be kids/no kids...and the kids area would be in a soundproof room.)

Comments (5)

  • im sorry- next time ill try to remember not to post such ridiculous letters in my column.
    yours,
    Abby

  • I totally know how you feel.  I am so on the fence with the baby making.  Kids are so expensive and time consuming - am I really that GIVING and maternal?  Not only that, but with the state of our environment - global warming - and our economy - is it even ethical to bring a child into this world?  These are the things I think about.  What kind of place will my potential child grow up in?   I'd really like it if people didn't assume that something is wrong with you if you are a single (or married in your case) woman who really doesn't WANT kids. 

  • I know how you feel! If I can't take care of myself, why would I want to bring kids into this world?  At any rate, I'd adopt...too many unwanted children born and thought of as trash. 

    Nonetheless, I think what she is saying is as a SINGLE mother, if she is killed or maimed, who would take care of the kids?  I am guessing that the father is nowhere in the picture. 

  • I agree with the concept that people with kids should be considerate to other people around them by either reeling them in or leaving them at home with a babysitter.  But the truth is, there are so many people with their heads up their @$$es that the world is pretty lacking in the consideration department these days.  Whether it be kid ettiquette or cell phone ettiquette or anything in between.  And no one is any more important than the next person, which is what I thought equality was all about.  Call me crazy.

    ryc: What a coincidence, my brother would have killed to go to cal poly a mere 4 four years before my tenure there.  He didn't get in.  I was lucky--they increased enrollment the year I applied.  Total fluke.

  • RYC: I'll post the "story" later, thanks for asking...though it's not much of a story. :)

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